Sexual Deviants Living In A Web 2.0 World

I get a hard on for people who write well… abby williams of The Little Red Schoolhouse and Naughty Abby gave me a big willy this morning. This is just a bit of what she had to say about us:

I once had a new co-worker tell me, “You should be on MySpace. Then I can be your friend!” I knew what she meant, but it did make me consider the merits of MySpace as a social tool, considering it really sounded like she was saying, “If you’re not on MySpace, we can’t be friends.”

Well, I finally have a comeback to that comment. “No, you should be on Fetlife, and then you can meet the real me!”

Do take the time to read the rest of what she had to say and If you are a big spanking enthusiast I recommend you check out Abby’s spanking videos she has up for sale.

Thanks Abby for the kind words!

Last night at 2 AM, I am sitting in my bed surfing FetLife when I come across a new users profile that has dancing bunnies, flashing lights and a fireplace in her about section. Notify kinkster ad delete about section. Today, I come across an about section 5 pages long with big honking pictures and music playing in it. Notify kinkster and I am about to delete the about section if I do not hear from him in the next hour.

I spent the last five hours starring at my screen and hacking away on a solution that prevents HTML from being embedded in the site. Solution is live.

I feel relieved and sad all at the same time about my solution. I want to let people feel like they can express themselves but at the same time I can not let the experience of FetLife be degraded for the other users. So for now, we are not letting people use HTML tags. Maybe in the future we will be able to create a sandbox of sorts that let’s people be creative in them while not degrading the quality of the site for everyone else but for now we have to just say no to HTML tags!

For those who are curious… I friggn hate mySpace! :-)

Dinner and then Fetish Weekend in Montreal starts for me!

RWilkinsIII over at sexblogconspiracy had the following to say about FetLife:

Fetlife - although it’s new - has the potential to do to AFF and ALT what Craigslist did to the New York Times.

I couldn’t of said it better what we are trying to accomplish over here!

I am at a cross-road and I am having problems making up my mind. I was hoping you might be able to help me by answering the following question:

If I was to only add one more feature to Fetlife, what would it be and why?

For gender we split trans into “Trans - Male to Female” and “Trans - Female to Male”.

For role we added Top, Bottom and Fetishist. We also came to the conclusion that we will have to add other eventually and allow people to write in what they want.

For D/s Relationship Status we added unowned and Protecting (opposite of under protection of). Unowned is like single but for the subs in D/s world!

Are we missing anything?

For the record, I do not drink coffee, I do not even know what it tastes like. I was just born with way too much energy!

After a really great conversation with DevotedPhoenix, to be read she was the teacher and I the very studious student, she convinced me that I really need to re-think the choices we give kinksters or their gender, role (sexually) and sexual orientation.

I felt the easiest one to do first was sexual orientation. Here is the original list we had:

• Straight
• Bisexual
• Bi-curious
• Gay
• Pansexual
• Trisexual

And this is our new list of sexual orientations that you can choose from that went online a couple minutes ago:

• Straight
• Heteroflexible
• Bisexual
• Gay
• Lesbian
• Queer
• Pansexual

John, get to the point, what changed:

Added Hetroflexible I love the term heteroflexible. There are the more official definitions of heteroflexible but I prefer the way I explain it. Heteroflexible to me is someone who will only date, marry and get into emotional relationships with someone of the opposite sex but if a someone of the same sex wants to give them head they won’t discriminate. Ok, it is more complicated then that but you get my drift.

Removed Bi-curious Bi-curious… what is bi-curious? Have you tried it or not? Bi-curious is less of what you are and more of a call out to tell people you want to experiment. Bi-curious, to me, is just a weird term. When I was 13 I was straight, was I ever with a girl? No. But I was straight because that is what best described how I was attracted to people. Put what you feel you are and not what you want to try for your sexual orientation. open for debate

Added Lesbian and Queer What can I say about this one other then I am sorry. I should of known better. In my life I have had a lot of gay male friends but never any lesbians or queer friends so I guess I just could not relate because of my limited life experiences. I hope to fix this though!

Removed Trisexual I had a choice and I made it. I decided to be correct instead of funny! One of the very few times I will choose correct over funny!

So what does everyone think? Log-in to your account and change your status!

Also, a big thank you to TwistedA and BlackOrchid for introducing me to the term Heteroflexible.

I didn’t realize how much I would like it until I deployed it last night and started to use it!

From the top right hand corner of every page on FetLife you have the ability to search through people, places and fetishes.

Unfortunately, I had to remove the home link from the navigation bar but I have an idea on how I can put it back. Hopefully I will get to put it back today.

and the compliment has nothing to do with my english skills…

Is John going to be on this podcast? He is awesome, you two are like peas and carrots! Don’t get me wrong I do miss Sin but John is cooler than the ice in a skating rink!

Now how is that for street cred missy!

Psst… I am a big looser in real life… just don’t tell anyone.

Listen to me on PizzaBabe’s podcast (I am on every second time… kind of…)

My alter ego, Fred: “Having to always enter in your username and password every time you come to FetLife?”

Me: “Umm… yeah… that is annoying… but that is not what I was trying to get at… but thanks for the reminder dick!”

You know what really annoys me? When I look at someone’s profile and wonder to myself if I ever spoke to this person before and if so what the hell did we speak about. You see where I am going with this don’t you?

Now, when you look at a user’s profile, if you have spoken to them before, right underneath “Message <Nickname>”, there will be a link titled “Our Conversations”. Click on it and presto, a list of your previous conversations with that person.

I would like to thank my mother, my father, my grade 2 teacher Miss Spacey, my cousin three times removed and my stuffed animal Socrates who is no longer with us for encouraging me to pursue this feature. Thank you. Music starts, exit stage left.

Most requested features have been taken care of. Giving the user the ability to clean up their inbox and seeing the conversations they started! :-)

After you respond to an email you can archive it using the “archive conversation” button at the bottom of the conversation. It is that simple.

Why archive and not delete? Just in case you ever need to go back to it! :-)

Why can’t I bulk archive messages? Part of me is lazy and the other part of me prefers you to at least look at the message before you archive them! Just out of politeness to the people who took the time to message you :-). It sucks for those who have been on the site for a while but look at the bright side… at least you do not have approx. 500 messages in your inbox like I do! :-)

Want to see a message that you archived or all the messages you sent out? It is easy… just click on “view: All Mail” from your inbox.

You might also notice something different happens when you respond to a message. Check it out, tell me what you think! :-)

Happy?