Sexual Deviants Living In A Web 2.0 World

Definitely not me of late, I have just been getting way to many great ideas from you guys and have not had anytime to have some kinky fun! But don’t feel bad for me (I know you weren’t) and don’t stop sending me in your ideas because most of them have been great… except for Fred’s of course, but I never expect much from him!

I just launched our latest biggish addition to FetLife. Many people have complained there was no open way to communicate with their friends on FetLife so we added a wall to each kinkster’s profile.

What is a wall you ask? You can equate a wall to either a fridge door where people leave open messages to their roommates/flatmates/familymates. Or, if your into the dirty stuff, and I know I am, you can equate it to writing on a bathroom stall. But this is a special bathroom stall, only your friends can use the stall and write on the walls. Ok, I have to stop with the analogy thing, it is not working so well! :-)

Log onto FetLife, go to one of your friend’s profile and leave them a message on their wall.

Tell me what you think!

→ FetLife - BDSM/Fetish Community

I haven’t blogged about the updates I have made lately because I didn’t not want to bore you with each small improvement but I think it is time to package all the improvements up in one blog entry and see if any of the changes catch your eye.

• Spam & Jerkface Prevention System: I implemented a Spam & Jerkface Prevention System. The system prevents someone who is really horny from willy nilly just emailing every single hot girl on the site in under an hour. The large majority of people will never come across this system. It is only for people who think free sites mean I can spam every girl in the system. Now I can sleep better at night! :-)
• Updated Website Footer: I was not in love with the copy so I improved it and as well link to my Twitter account for those who want to follow me on Twitter.
• Contact Info: I added a new section to a user’s profile called contact info. A user can now share links to his website(s) as part of his/her contact info. This way kinksters do not need to pollute their about me section with links.
• Australia: Yup, Australia has been changed. They are now a part of China LOL. No, not exactly. Now in the kinksters section Australia has been broken up into it’s separate areas like the US and Canada.
• Friendship Requests: Now, when you click on someone to request friendship with them the interaction works a little better. If you ask me, I like it better this way. Tell me what you think.
• Upload Picture with Caption: When you go upload a picture you can including a caption with the image.
• Looking for A Mistress: Now you can specify you are looking for a Mistress… believe it or not I did not have that option.
• Pansexual: Are you pansexual? Now you can specify your sexual orientation as pansexual.
• Plus a bunch of other small fixes

What am I working on now? You will see in a couple of days! :-)

I had a blast with my girl PizzaBabe last night on her podcast! It was the first time I have ever been on a podcast but I loved every single second of it! A big big thanks to PizzaBabe for allowing me to co-host the show with her.

To be honest, I am a little scared about how some people are going to react to some of the things I said on the show but I was 100% honest and just being myself. It is hard to apologize for that…

But maybe I should apologize for talking about Homis’ wife viemoira, but she is beautiful! :-). And if you are not following them on Twitter… you should be

Do check out the podcast. I had a lot of fun doing it and PizzaBabe is going to have me on again shortly… at least that is what she told me… she might be full of shit! :-)

On the Interweb:
→ Podcast: “FetLife Meets PizzaBabe.. Oh My..”
→ PizzaBabe.com
→ Master Homis & Viemora’s Blog

On FetLife:
→ PizzaBabe on FetLife
→ Homis on FetLife
→ viemoira on FetLife

On Twittter:
→ JohnBaku on Twitter
→ PizzaBabe on Twitter
→ Homis on Twitter
→ Viemoira on Twitter

The latest issue of “The Dominant’s View” is online now. Kayla did an interview with me for this issue that I recommend you read if you want to learn more about moi and why I started FetLife.

Here is a quote from the interview:

I come from a very traditional Greek family and from as early as I can remember I just had these fantasies about making girls do what I asked them to do. I really thought I was fucked up for being that way because I sure was not brought up to treat women this way so I repressed the feeling for a very long time. This was even before I had any clue what sex was. I would just make girls do things in my fantasies and it would just excite me to no end.

Other articles from this the most recent edition of The Dominant’s View include: “Death of a Munch”, “BDSM Art”, “Fear of Heights”, “More then sex sex sex Never! Offers from submissive men”, “Kinky or Not?” and “Book Review: Beyond the Looking Glass”.

→ Interview - FetLife → The Dominant’s View - Volume 9

If you are then why aren’t we following each other?

Ahh… you never heard of Twitter and don’t know what it is… I gotcha… here is the explanation directly from Twitter.com:

Twitter is a service for friends, family, and co–workers to communicate and stay connected through the exchange of quick, frequent answers to one simple question: What are you doing?

I had no clue how many kinksters were on it. Thanks to PizzaBabe for pointing them out to me. Just check out the list of people I am following for who she suggested I follow!

→ Check out Twitter.com
→ My Twitter Page

Wow, very cool four minute interview of a Dominatrix done by a Canadian show called “The Hour“. The thing that shocked me the most was the going rate… $350/hr… much higher then I would of ever guessed.

Here is a list of questions asked to the Dominatrix:

• what happens during a typical session?
• what does it cost?
• do you see a lot of freaks?
• what if things go to far?
• do you have limits?
• is it cheating?
• are Dommes control freaks?

Check out the interview…

Before today, you followed the latest activity feed on FetLife’s homepage to keep track of what your friends have been up to. That works, but what if you wanted to know what just one of your friend’s have been up to? You couldn’t.

Starting today, we will start showing each kinkster’s latest activity on their profile page. :-)

Why? Their are a couple reasons but these are the two big ones:

• if you have not logged in for a while to FetLife and want to see what one of your friends has been up to all you have to do now is go and check out their profile
• found someone interesting and want to see what they have been up to? You get it right their on their profile so you can get a better feel for the type of person they are.

I am really excited about this! This way when I have not logged into the site for 8 hrs I can just go and check my friends profiles to see what they have been up to! :-)

Note: Anything done before now does not appear in your activity log on your profile page… only starting now will things be added to your activity log on your profile page.

What do you think?

I feel so bad for people who get emails from me… I am not sure they ever make sense but I felt the need to share one of the last emails I sent to a friend with you.

I have this new thing for girls wearing vampyre makeup giving head… it is really weird… holly shit… it is not my fault… some girl uploaded a pic to FetLife and I was like what the fuck… and then I was… hey… I thought you were taking a nap… and he was like… not anymore, let me see… I was like are you sure… he was like, if you don’t move I am going to piss in your face… and I was like ok little guy, not need to get pissy!

The important thing is that I make myself laugh! :-)

Don’t get too excited… we do not have a “Forum” just yet on FetLife. To be very honest, one of the reasons we do not have a forum is because I am not convinced on the direction to take the Forum in. At least not a direction I am comfortable with.

So, here is where I am so far in my thinking. To start off with, the following are decisions I have made that I am really excited about.

• I will not personally moderate the forum, nor do I believe in moderators in the traditional sense.
• The community as a whole will moderate itself. Each person will be an given equal say in what is removed on the site. Each one of you will be able to “vote up” or “vote down” any post or comment that really liked or really did not like. And if a certain threshold is reached the post or comment will get permanently removed from the system. This way nobody has the burden of having to play God.

Now, it is the following question that I ask myself everyday that has been driving me crazy and preventing me from implementing some type of forum.

Where will the forum live in the site?

Yeah, yeah, sounds like a dead simple question but for me it is not: Will we just have a forum section on the site? Will I just add a forum to each fetish? Will I just add a forum to each location? Maybe even add a forum to both each fetish and each location?

I have to admit, intuitively I do not like the idea of having just a forum section, I feel like it does not add much value to the community like that. I prefer a forum being attached to either each fetish or to each location so their is more context to each discussion. But then again maybe my hesitation comes from neither of those solutions being good enough either.

What do you think?

Exciting stuff I tell you. Last night I had the pleasure of being interviewed about FetLife by Kayla Kuffs of the soon to be resurrected online magazine titled “The Dominant’s View“.

I have to say being interviewed is not as easy as some might think. After what felt to me as a rough start it ended up going a lot more smoothly though. I hope Kayla felt the same way.

I have to say that I am really lucky to be apart of the BDSM/Fetish community. I am always impressed with all the great people I meet in the community. People like Kayla who make so many sacrafices in her life just so that she can contribute to the community. In this case through her online magazine.

Thank you Kayla for your BDSM e-Zine and for asking to interview me! I had a lot of fun doing it!