We are geeky sexual deviants and this is our blog where we discuss fetishes, bondage, sex toys and the development of our our social network for sexual deviants like ourselves, FetLife.com.
I still blog, alot, but I am eating my own dog food and blogging directly from within FetLife and not blogging from here anymore.
If you are not a member of FetLife then you should become one and if you are then follow my writing/blog from my profile or add me as a friend of yours and you will get all my writing on in your mini-feed.
See everyone in FetLife!
Some recent review and mentions of FetLife on other blogs:
Until today, American’s could not specify what city they lived in which left people in the larger states frustrated when browsing through kinkster in their state.
So my American friends, login to FetLife, click on the edit link next to Profile in the top navigation bar and specify what city you live in.
So now Canadian and US cities are taken care of. Feels good!
I am really fortunate and humbled that I get emails from people who love FetLife and thank me for creating the site. Nothing feels better for someone like me who lives to grow software and communities.
This email in specific really made me feel good (they all do though):
Hey, just a note to say that I really enjoy this space. I actually deleted my profile on alt…. found enough good local people, and besides, alt is kind of… um …. creepy sometimes. Here I feel safer, I feel like the people are more on the level. I love the format… you can see what everyone is up to. I think it holds people to a slightly higher level of accountability. Being able to see threads of what others are writing has sparked some interesting conversations. It seems that there are alot of bloggers/writers on here, and that’s great. All in all I <3 fetlife. You are doing an amazing job, keep it up!!! –a.
LittleA even deleted her profile on ALT after joining FetLife. Wow… if that is not a compliment I do not know what is!
I am a big fan of long titles, this way I don’t really have to say much more if I don’t want to… but I do.
I am putting all my energy into groups for the next week or two. Over the last day I have deployed the following improvements:
Enough about me, how are you doing?
At the beginning of every month I like to reflect on what was accomplished during the last month and look forward to the goals we are setting for the upcoming month.
We added a writing section so that people could blog or share their erotica with everyone on FetLife. We deployed the first basic version of groups. We put the proper precautions in place to prevent people from turning FetLife into the next mySpace. We added the ability to search on almost anything from every page i.e. added searc to the navigation bar. We added the ability to archive conversations, view every single conversation you started or had with a member of FetLife as well as view all your conversations you have been having with one specific person. We created the friend finder so you can see which one of your friends are already on FetLife and invite the ones who are not on yet. And unfortunately, we created the blocking feature for those who just don’t get along.
I really had no clue how much we accomplished in the last month. Times they are a changing. But last month is now over and all that matters is what is planned for next month.
We don’t have any new sections planned for this month. This month is going to be devoted to taking everything we already have and just make them better. We are going to push the groups, pictures, fetishes and sign-up to the next level.
Here is FetLife by the numbers:
A lot of these numbers might not mean much to most people here so to summarize: people seem to be enjoying what we are doing here at FetLife but we are far from what our vision for FetLife is.
So cheers my friends for helping me push the experience that is FetLife further with all your great feedback and support and thank you for helping me in my quest to take down the bondage.com and alt.com’s of the world that don’t give a shit about us other then our credit card number.
What is a group? A group is just another way of saying a “club”. I know, I know, I say club and you think Chess Club (which I was a member of in elementary school). But on FetLife, I think our clubs are going to have a slightly different feel to them.
What can you do with groups now: * you can create as many groups as you want * you can join and leave a group * you can start discussions and respond to discussions on groups * the groups you are apart of are listed on your profile
People have been asking for forums and this is where forums come in. Each group in essence has it’s own forum.
One thing I need to stress is that the person who starts the group is the group admin and is responsible for the group. If people behave badly it is your responsibility to take care of it and I will be creating tools to help you do this over the next month.
So how do I create a new group? There is no link on FetLife right now to create a new group because I wanted to let my blog readers at it first. So to start a new group you have to go here:
This is just the first iteration of groups and I am going to be spending the rest of the month improving on them.
How do you like groups so far? What would you do to improve them?
I like speed. I like it when I go to google and the page load is barely noticeable. I am not saying I achieved google speeds at FetLife this morning but FetLife should be running more smoothly now.
Has anyone ever complained to me about the speed in which FetLife loads before? Not at all. It is a me thing! :-)
Do you notice a difference?
Have you been wanting to keep a journal about your journey into the BDSM lifestyle or your experiences experimenting with Fetishes? Do you want to share your journal with people who understand exactly how you feel and appreciate everything you have to say?
Have you been wanting to write erotica and share it with people who would most likely get as turned on by reading it as you get by writing it?
Then move right along, there is nothing for you to see here LOL.
The site has evolved a little bit over the last couple of days. Now, each user now can share their writing, be it a journal, erotica or just random notes with their friends and the rest of the community.
Details, give us details John, what does that mean to the site, what does that mean for us god dammit?
That is the overall summary.
Try it. Tell me what you like and don’t like. Like always, based on your feedback I will do exactly the opposite! :-p
I used to respond to emails within a couple minutes of receiving them but I have to stop doing this because emails are getting in the way of me actually working on the site.
I decided that instead of spending, what seemed to be, most of my time apologizing for not having feature X or Y on FetLife that before 6 PM my day would be devoted to kicking some codes ass so that when I do respond to email at night I would have more good news then bad news for you guys.
Trust me, this has nothing to do with me not loving you guys anymore, because I do, I just came to the realization that you love me more for my feature set and not my witty banter! :-) God, I am such a geek.
Status: I have about 50 emails on FetLife waiting for my response. I will get to all of them hopefully tonight_